Thursday, February 19, 2009

Roseanne is Still Talking About Chris Brown and Rihanna

Before you start going all coo-coo-bananas on me, I must admit that I sort of love Roseanna. Sure I had a falling out with her back when she was peddling her book and talking about all her multiple personalities, but since then we have patched things up and she's back in my good graces. Therefore it is with an open heart that I bring to you the commedienne's latest blog on Guiding Fight aka the Chris Brown Rihanna Brawl of '09. Rosers basically gives her 5 cents on the situation including her advice for the couple. Let's listen in:
women who go back to men who have hit them are usually violent too--they escalate conflict by using verbal humiliation and often throw the first punch, but are then unable to withstand the strength of the man's counter attack.
Alot of guys hit women because the women are hitting them, verbally abusing them or throwing the keys to their car outside and goading them on, and they lose control of themselves. This is what it sounds like to be in the rhianna-chris brown affair. there is no way out of violence if you are violent. the only way to win is not to play the game.
In the later stages, she won't leave because her will is destroyed, and a violent line crossed, because once the guy threatens to kill her, it becomes almost impossible for her to leave.
i hope rhianna is getting counseling from a professional counselor who will tell her that there is no way for her to ever win, and that she will have to curtail her own penchant for escalating conflict by screaming at or hitting or humiliating her abuser. I hope he gets real counseling too, that is not from a minister or his mom or any other shame based bullshit method that will never work, and that is designed to avoid dealing directly with self-control issues. I hope that they both leave each other alone and get over their faults.
I hope she does not continue to play the game with him. If they still love each other after they learn self control and conflict resolution, then they can get back together.
If she says so...


Anonymous said...

RIHANNA provoked and CHRIS lost control.
Rihanna needs to grow up and learn how to deal w/ issues in a healthier way. Chris on the other hand needs to gain control and not allow any woman or man affect him in that manner.

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